On loving…
Dear Soulsister,
In one of my childhood endeavours, I was forunate to meet a guru who taught me something that took years for me to comprehend, she used to say:
God helps those who help themselves
— one of the foremost guiding principles for me, and the reason why I shared about “choosing yourself” in a quest and dynamics of living through relationships.
You might ask or perhaps even indulge in self doubt when thinking about relationships not working out and especially though that didn’t work out.
And that’s why, self-care or self-compassion, the act of being your own bestfriend, is needed to replace the worst critic. That is the place from which you develop a being of love, invite changed perceptions and life transforms.
And that’s why I hav to tell you that — when pondering over past relationships, you’re capable of loving. When you think of the past, remember the feeling you were living, where you wanted to give love and plant it everywhere.
You’re capable of receiving love: before things went sour, you had a person who showered love, acknowledgements, appreciations and compliments. You’re worthy of it all. Meanwhile, all those who care for you and are meant to be with you in life and spirit are right here, with and for you.
And perhaps, most important of it all, any kind of relationship it be, it will give clarity of who you are, what you need and don’t need going forward.
So, cherish life!
—cherish how each relationship has been a turning point to better things. You will emerge finding that in times when you thought you can’t get through despair or you felt unworthy, you are much more than that, and no matter the circumstances, that you’ll always move towards a better place, for you are already at it.
Love,
Always,
Cheer
