Choose yourself
Dear Soulsister,
I have come to realize that relationships of any kind are the most self-reflecting aspect of our lifes. Irrespective of the nature of the relationship — parental, platonic, romantic, professional — the way we are in those dynamics, the way we behave give so much away of the kind of person we are.
Especially in romantic relationships, aka drama. The extent of vulnerability in such relationships directly pours into how emotionally involved we are; and most importanty the risk of being with with someone, where we compromise more than what makes us happy.
Being aware and realizing that is first half of the battle.
The second half?
Choose yourself, always.
I want to tell you that you are a beautiful person. Tell you more than any guy ever will till the time you are pink and brimming with love everywhere. You are my pillar of strength that you would be wrong to think you are not strong.
You’re strong to not easily give in, you’re strong to know your values and abide them. Those are weak who go beyond compromising to mend their ways to accommodate someone who don’t deserve their love.
Your love ought to be more than a relationship , where your love grows you both and the environment you both are in; and if haven’t felt that way previously, kudos you have learned.
You’re finding your way, stepping closer to let the right one find you. So that you are prepared when he’s here. So that you don’t overlook his love in lust of someone else’s.
Love is when you sing, love is when you write , love is in the family and friends and joy wherever you go. It is inherent in you.
And yes, love that moves away or fades or doesn’t stay takes time to regain its love ability. It takes time but it will.
Love and care for yourself, even if that means grieving to your heart’s content but never again after that. Letting go, makes it lighter.
And very important — don’t blame yourself. You have nothing to lose only to gain.
Choose yourself, always.
Love,
Always
Cheer
(To be continued…)
